It was a lovely sunny morning yesterday, so I planted an Elder tree (Sambucus nigra ‘Black Lace’). Likely it will die back and will not attain the heights it is supposed to if it was in a zone 4 or higher garden. That is fine with me – I love the lacy black foliage and planted it next to my Ninebark ‘Diablo’.
I chose this shrub because I have much enjoyed reading about the myths associated with it. Elders were often planted near houses to ward off evil spirits and were widely known for their healing properties.
If you are interested in reading about the folklore surrounding the Elder, there is interesting information in both of these articles, ‘The Spirit of the Elder Tree’ and ‘Elder in Profile’. The Elder also figured prominently in many herbal remedies and many drinks. (See Yolanda Elizabet’s recipe for Elderflower Champagne at her blog, Bliss!
Planted with the Elder are several mementos, including silver earrings, from a relationship that has come to an end. Around the base, I put several seashells and sand which I had brought back from my journeys to San Diego.
Since I have had a hard time letting go and moving on, I felt the need to do something tangible to feel at peace with myself once again.
It is time to focus my energies on nurturing my spirit and putting my passion back into the things that I love doing.
I know now that it doesn’t matter our age, the pain of losing love is just as difficult at age 49 as it was when I was younger. In some ways, I think it might be more so. People who have come to mean much in our life are valuable – they are not so easily replaceable.
to suffer because of it that increases.